Over the last several years of my ministry experiences, I have had a continuing interest and passion in helping teens and young adults in coping with the issue of their parents divorce.

One of the highest points of interest I learned is that despite what any expert may think or suggest, no one (or couple) is invincible to this painful situation. In getting the blessing to be a part of many teens lives across the country, I have also had the ability to see the varied results and products of divorce.

Some have been saddening stories of students lives falling apart before your eyes as they struggle to grab a hold of some splinter of stability in their life.

Others have been inspiring stories of endurance, and perseverance to overcome depression, anger, and grudges held for years against parents, leading to young adults with a strong sense of character and resolve to endure any situation through faith, and patience.

There have been too many stories like these (and all the ones in between) to count just in my own network of relationships over the years though, and it becomes completely overwhelming to think of all the stories (past and present) that have taken place outside of my own relationships.

In my experience there is no rhyme or reason as to why it happens. There is no process of how exactly it will affect you, and there certainly is no proven formula for getting over it. The only constants that I have been able to derive from my encounters is that divorce hurts, no one wins, and everyone has a story. I myself am a child product of divorce.

Through the years both of my parents have tried several relationships and several times failed. I have come to learn that relationships are hard and should never be taken lightly, though with appropriate effort and investment, they can also be the most rewarding experience of life.

The saying of what you give into something is what you get out of it holds truer in relationships than in anything else.  I like anyone else was hurt as a child by divorce, but was also given the chance to learn invaluable lessons in life through it, and now today can say I am thankful for the chance to learn them early, and for the constant support that was given to me by parents and countless others.